God's refinement is perfect. His discipline is the best thing we can ask for.
In observing many people and talking to many others, I am more sure today that in this culture, there is hardly a woman without a story involving a guy who hurt her. I'm not getting at the guy side of this, but the female side. In a broad sweeping statement, women in our culture are waiting for that man who will care about her past, kiss away the tears, be good and honorable...Jesus has to be that man before anyone else can. (Though don't hear me say that Jesus is a romantic figure to any individual, but a groom to the worldwide church.)
Never feel entitled. Feeling entitled will drive a dividing fork between you and the people you work alongside, but being humble will unite enemies.
When you think of the term 'best friend', think not of being the best of someone's friends, but being the best you can be at being their friend. Friendship, too, is something to excel at.
Not romance, but companionship. Not infatuation, but real life.
Vulnerability. The freedom to be myself, to laugh, to carry myself with dignity, to let myself be beautiful, to shine, to hurt and let others know about it, to rejoice and invite others into it, to encounter safety in another's eyes...vulnerability.
Trying so hard to come through for myself will only delay the way that God can come through for me. Wait for the Lord, and trust Him. This can only bring good things.
"I, even I, am He who comforts you. Who are you that you fear mortal men, the sons of men who are but grass, that you forget the Lord your Maker, who stretched out the heavens and laid the foundations of the earth, that you live in constant terror every day because of the wrath of the oppressor, who is bent on destruction? For where is the wrath of the oppressor? The cowering prisoners will soon be set free, they will not die in their dungeon, nor will they lack bread."
"He always gives back with His right hand what He has taken away with His left."
Life is so beautiful.
Maybe I'll expand more on some of these. But then again, maybe I won't. If you wanna know, ask me. :)